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What Men Need To Know About Dating And Relationships

elaine — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 00:17:47 +0000

What may seem surprising to a lot of women is that there are plenty of men in the world who have similar desires regarding dating and relationships, that women have. There are also a lot of men who have problems with dating and finding the right woman with whom to build a real relationship. So with these men in mind, I did some research on available dating and relationship advice for men.

What I found was that there really is not a lot of good advice available online for men. For some reason, most people seem to think that the questions on these subjects are asked only by the female gender. But here is some of the best relationship advice for men who are looking for that special someone.

What most men need to understand is that women actually like a lot of the things that men find attractive. At our core, there are a lot of similarities between the sexes. Following are a few

Women like a little mystery. In fact some mystery in the beginning is essential. A good mystery needs to be solved. Women become determined to get to the bottom of it, and in the process good things can develop.

Women like a bit of a challenge. A man who declares his undying love for a woman after knowing her for three weeks is no challenge. Typically men crave physical intimacy and women are looking for love. The same way a female will hold back with the physical intimacy is the same way a man should hold back on declarations of adoration.

Women like men who appear strong. A strong man gives the impression that he will both take charge, and yield when the need arises. This gives women the feeling of security that they all want from their relationship without sacrificing compromise.

Women like confident men. Be sure of yourself and a woman will think you are capable of anything. Both men and women like to feel that their partner can and will take care of them. You scratch my back and I will scratch yours!

As with all relationships, it goes both ways. Yin and Yang must work together to create a peaceful universe. The challenge is to put the two halves together to create a happy whole. Following this dating relationship advice for men is sure to get you off in the right direction.

Play Dates Aren’t Just For Kids!

elaine — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 23:34:42 +0000

Everybody needs a good play date every once in a while.

No, I’m not talking about the kind that involves Legos and juice boxes…I’m talking about the kind that involves sexy people looking for a little fun with other sexy people.

A play party isn’t everyone’s idea of a good Saturday night, but if you find yourself feeling adventurous, they’re an experience well worth having. If you’re curious about discovering why play dates aren’t just for kids anymore, read on for more information about what to expect from an erotic event…

• Most parties only invite couples or single women, but if you search hard enough you can find parties that allow single men to attend as well.

• Parties are either “on premise” or “off premise.” At on premise parties, sexual activity is allowed at the venue. Off premise parties are for socializing only.

• Don’t over-think things. Am I too old? Am I too young? Am I not pretty enough, or not the right weight? Guests are play parties are an extremely diverse group of people. While they do share a few traits – discretion, friendliness, maturity – their physical characteristics are completely varied.

• Don’t stress out too much about what to wear – you should wear whatever makes you feel comfortable and sexy. Many people come in lingerie, revealing club wear, or fetish attire, but others wear street clothes or look like they just left the office!

• Communication is key. If you’re attending with a serious relationship partner, be sure to discuss the event beforehand. Make sure you’re both on the same page about what you’re comfortable with, what you hope to get out of the night, and what the rules are.

• Never allow yourself to feel pressured into doing something you don’t want to do. There are exceptions to every rule, but for the most part erotic party-goers are very respectful of each other. Don’t hesitate to say “No” if you’re not interested in playing with someone, and respect a “No” instantly if someone says it to you.

Lifestyle events allow like-minded people to connect with each other on multiple levels. Anything goes, whether you’re just interested in meeting new people and spending an evening grooving on the dance floor, you’re looking for a night of casual flirting, or you’re planning for an experimental romantic rendezvous in the back room. Whatever your interests and comfort level, you’ll find a party that suits you.

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3 Dating Tips For Men That Your Mother Never Told You!

elaine — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 23:24:10 +0000

Every woman is a wealth of dating tips for men.

Are they well-intentioned? Yes.

Are they useful? Not always.

“Wear clean underwear,” “Shower before your date,” and “Don’t spend the entire dinner holding a conversation with her cleavage” are solid dating tips for men, but the women in your life often leave out important advice. Unfortunately, most women have a limited understanding of how female attraction works – they experience it, but they don’t analyze it. Here are 3 dating tips for men that your mother never told you:

1) There’s no such thing as the Three Day Rule. There is absolutely no reason to wait three days before calling, emailing, or texting a girl you’re interested in. The infamous Three Day Rule was created with the sole intention of eliminating neediness, because neediness is one of the biggest attraction killers for women. Calling a woman the day after you meet her and telling her that you’ve cancelled all your plans for that night so you can see her sounds desperate, but calling her the day after you meet her and telling her that you and your friends are going to see a cool new band play at a local bar, and she’s welcome to join if she’d like, does not. Though this is one of the most prevalent dating tips for men in existence, it’s completely wrong.

2) Play the male gender role to attract women who are playing the female gender role. Traditionally, the man must be the provider-protector while the woman fulfills the role of nurturer. Society has changed these roles a little – men must now be social providers, while women must be empathizers (people who feel what other people feel) – but gender roles are no less important. Be dominant without being domineering to increase attraction in women.

3) You should never “get lucky.” So many of the phrases we use to describe dating and relationships – from “getting lucky” to “falling in love” – imply that the occurrence was an accident. A man who is truly great with women, however, knows that he is in complete control over his success. You are responsible for everything, good and bad, that happens to you, so actively create situations in which good things occur – don’t wait for them to find you.

Arm yourself with these lesser-known dating tips for men, and you will transform your dating life dramatically!

3 Dating Tips For Women That You Didn’t Learn On “Sex And The City”

elaine — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 22:43:04 +0000

Search the Internet for “dating tips for men” and you’ll find thousands of sites claiming to change your life…but what about dating tips for women? Most relationship experts seem to think that women are only interested in learning how to keep a man, not how to date a man successfully. Dating is an equally important topic, so here are 3 Dating Tips for Women That You Didn’t Learn on “Sex and the City”…

1) If you set your expectations low, he’ll meet them. If your expectations are high, he’ll meet those instead. Humans are built to fulfill intentions and expectations. That means that you cannot afford to overlook rude comments or behavior that is inappropriate or disappointing. A person is only able to be as good as you expect him or her to be. When you set the bar high and assume that a man will reach it, he will.

2) You are not auditioning. If this were the 1950s, a list of dating tips for women would probably include things like “Press his trousers each morning!” and “Be sure that dinner is waiting on the table every evening when he comes home from work!” But this is the 21st century, and dating tips for women have changed dramatically. It is not your job to try to impress him at all times, and independence is one of the sexiest traits a woman can have. Don’t rearrange your schedule for him and stop catering to his every whim. Always maintain a life outside of your relationship – the better that life is, the more he will want to be a part of it.

3) Women are not attracted to money; they’re attracted to what money symbolizes. On the surface, being wealthy just means having a lot of money. But women are incredibly intuitive – they understand that being wealthy actually represents a whole lot more. A wealthy man most likely holds a powerful position professionally, and a man who holds a powerful position professionally is generally a leader of some kind. A leader, by definition, has followers. If people are following someone, they do so because they gain value from being around that person and, consequently, are happier. A man with the ability to make those around him feel happier and more valuable is irresistibly attractive.

Approach relationships with these dating tips for women, and your romantic life will improve drastically!

Dating And Age: Is It Really Just A Number?

elaine — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 22:08:23 +0000

“Cougar.” “Cradle robber.” “Gold digger.” “Jailbait.” “May-December romance.” “Boy toy.” “Lolita.”

The English lexicon is packed with disparaging terms used to describe relationships between people who are dating and have a large gap in their ages. When marriages were arranged merely for convenience, like monetary gain or a raise in social status, age differences were not uncommon. In fact, they were often the norm. These days, however, an older man who dates a younger woman is often accused of taking advantage of her, while a younger man who dates an older woman is teased about having “mommy-issues” or being a kept man.

Which point of view is the reality? When it comes to dating Is age ever really just a number? Before embarking on a serious relationship in which an age gap is involved, consider the following questions:

Are you in tune with your partner’s concerns?
It’s true that you are dating a person, not a birth date, but age and experience will still factor into your relationship. If you are dating someone older, they might feel threatened by people in your life that they perceive as more attractive because they are younger. They may also worry that you are missing out on vital life experiences by being with them. If you are dating someone younger, he or she might feel inadequate when compared to your older, more mature acquaintances. Make sure that your partner never feels that they are lacking in any way.

Are you heavily influenced by the opinions of others?
You are likely to encounter many questions and criticisms regarding your relationship – if you can’t handle them without getting hurt, a relationship with an age gap is probably not for you.

What are your long-term relationship goals?
An age difference may not seem like a problem at first, but it might become an issue as the relationship progresses. What if one person plans to retire and then travel, while the other is stuck in one place working or finishing a degree? What if one person is ready to get married and have a family, and the other is not? For a relationship with an age gap to work, both partners must have similar life plans.

If you are serious about making your relationship work, it can turn into a wonderful short-term learning experience or a strong long-term bond. So take a chance – broaden your horizons and give yourself the opportunity to gain a new perspective on life and relationships.

Surviving A Breakup With Style

elaine — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 00:10:47 +0000

It’s time to tackle a tough topic: the breakup. The ugly truth is that no matter how it happens, and no matter how many times it happens, it’s still going to hurt.
But if we can’t avoid the initial pain, we can at least avoid acting like spoiled children, nearly being the cause of restraining orders, completely losing touch with reality, and generally acting like psychotic basket cases!
Breaking up with style requires you to remember four basic ideas: consideration, maturity, honesty, and self-respect. Let’s look at each one in depth…
Consideration: It will seem like torture, but you must be considerate of your ex. You may not like his decision, but you also have to accept that he had every right to make it. Resist all urges to break his dishes or key his car! Don’t keep calling, don’t keep texting, don’t keep emailing. Don’t visit places you know he likes. If you take your anger and hurt out on him, he’ll quickly begin to think less of you (and he’ll assume you’re totally insane, and therefore that he was completely right to break up with you in the first place!).
Maturity: Being in a relationship requires a great deal of maturity – and so does breaking up. We say and do lots of pointless things to try to make ourselves feel better after a relationship has ended. Hiding in your apartment with a month’s worth of Ben & Jerry’s, for example, is not a particularly adult way to handle the situation. Nor is asking your friends to drop hints to your ex about how hot you look now and how great your life is with your sexy new man. Instead of allowing yourself to fall into the trap of childish thoughts and actions, look at your breakup from a mature, positive point of view – you’ve learned valuable lessons that will improve your next relationship!
Honesty: Be truthful with yourself about why your relationship didn’t work. Odds are, the fault doesn’t lay completely with him. Use your breakup as an opportunity to learn from your mistakes. Also take care that you don’t try to convince yourself that the breakup is temporary. View the situation as permanent (at least until concretely proven otherwise!) and begin moving on. Waiting around for an ex to change his mind will only make you feel worse about the situation.
Self-Respect: Do not ever allow thoughts like “I didn’t deserve him” or “I don’t belong in a good relationship” to cross your mind (especially if you do so because he told you those things!). You deserve a healthy relationship with a loving, caring partner. Treat yourself well during a breakup by focusing on the immense power of positive thinking. If you tell yourself that your breakup is the end of the world, it just might be. Instead, tell yourself that there are lots of new men to meet and that the next one will be better.

Keep these 4 ideas in mind and you’ll survive all your breakups with dignity, grace, and your sanity intact!